Please Help Elvis

[diamc]

Kaitlyn, I just read about Ella. I am so very sorry, you certainly did everything you could do for her AND more. She knew she was loved and she will always hold a very special place in your heart. She is at peace now and at Rainbow Bridge with all the other very special beardies that we have lost. ((((((((hugs))))))

R.I.P. Ella

 

[babyelvissocute]

Thanks everyone.

Its been a really hard two weeks. Every day, I try to clean her tank out, but I just cant bring myself to do it yet ): it still sits there, everything in there, except Ella. I never realizied how much I was going to miss her.

 

[sweetiepie9]

I know how you feel, Sweetie's tank is still in my bedroom, may take awhile before I even try to disband it...so I feel for you & your loss.
You know you did all you could for her and she passed away in her comfy home, knowing she was loved.
She'll always be remembered
Deb

 

[Goonie]

Its been a really hard two weeks. Every day, I try to clean her tank out, but I just cant bring myself to do it yet ): it still sits there, everything in there, except Ella. I never realizied how much I was going to miss her.

You'll know when it's time to break down her tank, when you're ready deep down in your heart to say goodbye.

 

[babyelvissocute]

I think thats the problem..I dont think I ever will be ready to say good bye, but at the same time, I'm torturing myself looking at the empty tank everyday.

 

[Goonie]

Feeling tortured by looking at an empty tank is a way of grieving. No one's ever ready to really say goodbye, but we do know when it's time to say farewell and move on with happy memories of our loss.
When I lost my Rottie back in '98, it took me nearly 3 months to put his stuff away. Yup, 3 months, and I cried every night for 2 weeks straight. Then one day, I just knew it was time to pack everything up and away.

Kaitlyn, please remember that you went above and beyond for Ella, and she knew that. You should be very proud for being such a great mommy to her. Not many people your age (shoot, any age for that matter) would've devoted as much time and attention and money to ensure that Ella had the best care or give her only food that she'd be able to eat. If you were my daughter, I would be incredibly proud of you -- as I am right now.

 

[lauraj1055]

So sorry to hear about Ella It hurts so bad when our pets die. Our thoughts are with you!

 

[babyelvissocute]

I wish my mom was more like you then. My mom has been horrible through this. The day after it happened, she left to go to fox woods for the weekend, and she promised when she got back she would bring Ella to get cremated, but she wouldnt let me put her in the freezer, had to put her in the shed. She never brought her, and she is still in the shed. I even already picked out a nice urn for her, but I dont even know if I should get it now, as she is STILL, over 2 weeks, in the shed! First, my mom kept promising to bring her. Now, she doesnt want to, because its a "waste" of money (even though its MY money), she was "just a lizard" and "you have 12 other pets. What, are you just going to get them all cremated and keep their ashes? dont you think its a little weird" I hate her right now. It might be too late by now, even if I do get my mom to realize how bad I want to get her cremated. She keeps asking me why I dont just bury her, or cremate let HER cremate Ella. I dont want to bury her, because we move so much, I will never have a spot to go visit her. Atleast if I have her ashes I will always have her with me.

Ugh, sorry for the rant. Im just really upset with my mom right now. Shes the type of person that would rather talk about how great of a cheerleader my sister is, other then her vegetarian soccer playing animal-lover other daughter.

On another note, I'm so happy I have Blaze and Wayne. When Ella first died, I atleast had my best friend with me. And I felt really guilty feeding Blaze and Wayne, and seeing them heathy and eating, and I just couldnt do it. My friend did it for me. I felt like a horrible person. On one hand, I felt like I was betraying Ella by feeding the other two when she was dead, but on the other hand, I couldnt betray Blaze and Wayne and never feed them again. I was an emotional, mental wreck, and went to school then came home, fed my other pets, and went to bed everyday the first week, not wanting to do anything. Last week was a little better, but still bad. I have been sick this week, and was planning on cleaning her tank out today since I was home but still couldnt do it. So, it still sits there, in my room. And I still need to get Ella cremated. If only I could drive there, but I only have my permit and her vet is over a half hour away..

 

[babyelvissocute]

I know how you feel, Sweetie's tank is still in my bedroom, may take awhile before I even try to disband it...so I feel for you & your loss.
You know you did all you could for her and she passed away in her comfy home, knowing she was loved.
She'll always be remembered
Deb

And I am sorry that Sweetie died recently, too. Maybe her and Ella are with each other..they both are at peace and pain free now.

 

[sweetiepie9]

Hi Kailyn,
I'm sorry about your mom, I know exactly how you feel, as I have 4 male dragons that I also have to care for. I think what's made it easier is knowing that Sweetie is out of pain, she was just too sick to carry on. Her tank is still in my room, with all her furniture back in place. I have no intention of touching that tank for a good while, it makes me feel better. And yes, Sweetie & Ella are with Sweetie's sisters & my hubby, too, I'm sure they're all in Rainbow bridge, healthy & running around. My hubby wasn't a people person, so it makes sense that he's there, playing with all our lost beardies. It makes me feel better about both losses.
I hope you feel better soon, Kailyn, I'll be thinking of you,
take care,
Deb

 

[lauraj1055]

I am so sorry that your mom is like that.. as a mother myself of a 16 year old, if you were my daughter, she would have been brought to the vet either that day, or the very next day. I wish my daughter had this much passion for animals. You are a sweetheart, don't ever forget that. If I were close to you, I would come pick you up and bring you. You mentioned Foxwoods, where do you live? Foxwoods is about 2 hours from me.

 

[babyelvissocute]

I live in Beverly, Massachusetts but her vet is in Wakefield. My mom has a half day of work today and said maybe she would bring her if she had time. I hope she does.

 

[Goonie]

If you're using YOUR OWN money to have Ella cremated, why should your mom care? *grrrrr*
(that's all I'm going to say, or else I'll have to ban myself for violating site policies against being rude and using vulgar language)

 

[babyelvissocute]

I dont think it would look to good if a mod had to ban herself :shock: But, I'm used to her. Not everyone values lizards as much as they would cats and dogs. When my cat got sick, my mom paid almost $3,000 for her to get her surgery, meds, feeding tube ect. When I first got Ella, I wanted to bring her in for a check up, but she said lizards dont go to vets, and only when she realizied Ella was really sick, she let me bring her, then after that it was just sickness after sickness and since I paid for it my mom didnt mind. So I dont see why this one last thing I want to do with Ella seems so unreasonable to her. I am not like anyone else in my family, with the whole animal loving thing, They dont know where I got it from. Neither do I. Its hard for them to understand how much I loved Ella, because to them she was just a lizard. My dad kept telling me that I could've bought thousands of dragons with all the money I spent on Ella. They couldnt understand that I didnt want other or others dragons, I wanted Ella. But, still, I dont see why she wont just drive there for me, I am hoping I can convince her to bring me later. Hopefully its not too late now though.

 

[Drache613]

Hello Kaitlyn,

Well, did your mom take you to the vet to get Ella cremated yet???????????
I am like Gina, I can't say much because it wouldn't be nice what I would say on here. I have already told you what I thought in our emails.
I have to say this, your mother is very cruel. That's all I have to say. I wish that you were my daughter, I would be so proud. I am so proud of you & we aren't even related.

Tracie