I'm so sorry to hear about Ella, I was so hopeful that she'd be able to have the surgery & start getting better. It's always a very hard decision, and always has to do with quality of life. I'm sorry the news wasn't better for you. Know I'm praying for both of you. We had to decide the same thing for our cat, his kidneys had failed & he'd lost a huge amount of weight. We decided to set him free from pain & my son was there when Squeakers was given the needles. It helped to know he was no longer in pain or frail, but it took a long time to accept that fact.
Whatever your decision I'm right behind you. If you need to talk, just PM me anytime. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))) being sent your way.
From all of us,
Deb, Sweetie, Lonzo, Rubio, Leo and Didi. Rocco, our golden gecko, wanted to be included, too.