I got roshi from my boyfriend she's a year and a half I got her in march, first time I saw her I picked her up, when I brought her home I let her chill out for a day but than I started handling her the next day, she doesn't exactly like to be held, she likes to run around and explore. she's very independent, but in other cases like if I got a new one like a baby i'd leave that guy alone for awhile and wait till it gets bigger and gets used to me being near it, and let it come to me, but since roshi and skippy were both handled I just pick them up. BUT if I wake her up she gets superrr cranky, she'll puff up her beard it wont turn black or anything she'll flatten out so I cant pick her up, but if I attempt she'll move her body towards me like trying to be larger than she really is. if she does that I just leave her alone. she's my little crabby pants, she lovesssss water, will swim around, move her body to make waves and everything. now her brother on the other hand he HATES water with a burning passion if he hears the tub he's gone, he'll turn black all over and will have an absolute fit until you take him out. their nothing alike but from the same clutch.