Juce23":22cbg3wp said:
First of all..I'm sorry if it seems I'm being a bit of a baby..lol.. I was when I posted it.. But that doesn't mean I'm going to discard him.. Or give him away. I was just venting.. I do see so many others enjoying their beardie .. So do my two daughters who picked him out and want to interact with him.. So I apologize for the way it was worded.. I enjoy doing the things I do for him..
Fair enough, apologies if I sounded overly harsh. I've watched beardies go from an animal kept by reptile enthusiasts to an everyday pet. Which in many ways is great, but I find people expect too much of them sometimes or sacrifice their care to make them more pet like. Although I'm certainly not suggesting you do the latter, in fact the care sounds good. I do totally appreciate you would have expected to be able to interact with him more and of course your daughters would want him to.
I'd say the fact be accepted your peace offering was a really good sign. Will he eat all foods from your hands rather than just treats? (Be careful he doesn't become a prima donna and only want to be hand fed).
I think just getting him used to your presence by doing cage maintenance is a very good step that combined with some hand feeding will really build trust. I suspect as you intimated, fear is his motivation, nothing more. Will he come over to you if you have food, can you get him to walk on to your hand? I'd do this for a while try and get him to come to you, then focus on getting him out of his tank. Slow deliberate movements are key, as is confidence (which it sounds like you have).
When you say you wouldn't put him back until he stopped struggling, I understand the logic not to reward, but be careful he isn't getting heavily stressed, sometimes when they appear calm it is more a case of submission. Make sure he is still alert and inquisitive. As above maybe build up slowly to that.
You mentioned he is in a 40g breeder, what are the dimensions? Is that all glass? Is there anything that might be stressing him, pets, your daughters wanting to interact, heavy traffic near his enclosure? If it's a tank does he get disturbed when the top comes off? I would always try and put your hand into the viv as far from him as possible then approach at his level, they are sensitive to aerial threats.
Also when you say it is 105 at the hot end, is that ambient temperature or directly on the basking spot?