i approach him from the front. i have a front sliding glasss door, so i dont think thats the problem. i slowly move hand over toward him and "pinch" (not really pinch, just not sure how to describe it) his sides and lift him into the air. while in the air, i get the "tail twirl" and flailing of legs. i set him down on my hand and keep a firm yet soft grasp so he doesnt run away while i gently stroke him. once out he is GENERALLY good, he does get a little antsy after awhile. the hard part isnt so much getting him out, i do have problems but i can overcome them, the hard part is keeping him out. im thinking its a trust issue, where i dont trust him from running away and he doesnt trust me from... who knows. but i guess i could use help in both aspects.