Yes, I understand the whole cancer thing, very frightening and, I am very sorry you have to fight this beast. My son whom is disabled is fighting a hard uphill battle with brain cancer. Four rounds of chemo and, two surgeries (the last one was to remove a pear sized tumor and, it still came back only now was the size of a large grapefruit on his most recent MRI. We all have life problems that no one sees and, yes it is hard to keep it together at times, all we can do is try.EllenD":x7i8oggq said:I'll be the first to admit that I'm very passionate about pets, and there is nothing that frustrates me more than when an animal is clearly suffering and nothing is being done about it. That being said, I need to keep it in check and have made a concerted effort to do so lately. I'm "that rude person" that was referred to earlier, but I will say in that particular post that I did not mean to come off so harshly, I apologize, and sometimes things do get misconstrued when written. But I'll admit when I'm wrong, and I was wrong in that particular post, it was not intentional but just my frustrations with other people on here coming through, if I'm being honest. I owe Gormagon an apology, but I can explain why I responded the way I did, not an excuse but actually a reason...
The same time Gormagon posted his thread I had just read a horrible post that made me sick to my stomach, a new member looking for help because, in their own words, their beardie had two long, gaping wounds on its back that were so bad that the beardie's ribs were visible. Quite honestly, I lost my *****! When I and other people commented as to how badly their beardie's pain must have been, they responded that "he is not suffering at all", and then commented directly to me with "EllenD, don't you know that not everyone that has pets can afford to take them to the vet? What's wrong with you?"...So directly after that cluster I read Gorgamon's post and I think I read his statement of "I'm taking him to the vet in a few weeks, I'm busy and so are the vets"...Now I don't think Gorgamon meant that the way it sounded,
I don't remember posting that, are you sure it was me? Because my dragon "Peaches" is doing fine, lol!
and after the "exposed ribs" thing I guess I hit my breaking point...So again, I apologize, it was just a build up of crap and I should have known better than to respond to any other posts after that catastrophe. That's on me, I'm not rude, I am passionate about my pets, but I'm also dealing with cervical cancer, haven't worked in a year due to it, but i still take all of my pets to the vet regularly. So if your beardie's ribs are exposed, well, you get where I'm coming from I think.
I agree that everyone on here, including myself, has gotten worked up over an extremely difficult situation where a beardie has been suffering or has been subjected to dangerous or neglectful situations. I personally am now trying to take a step back and think before I type. That being said, I don't regret one word I said to that other person, there are situations where strong words are warranted, if for no other reason than to get a point across if the OP isn't understanding the severity of the situation, or insists that they "only want home remedies for a broken spine", or something similar. It's all in the delivery though, that's where at least I need to watch myself....Now if someone asks me what's wrong with me and tells me that I should know that not everyone can afford to get their pets medical care (and has also stated that they have like 15 lizard's and turtles), then I'm not going to pull punches. But that's a completely different situation than the typical one, and again, we all do need to take a breath...
This forum is my escape from the grim reality that surrounds me. I just don't want to come on here one day and, no one is here because of being scared to post.