Rest on peace my sweet Ruby

As you can mo doubt surmise from the title, we had to day goodbye to our precious little girl last night. We are both pretty much in a state of shock right now. So far we have no answers, but the test results from the blood work should be back today. I'm hoping they can provide answers.
We have had Ruby to the vet multiple time lately. She had started having trouble pooping, and her vent had swollen up. We were told she had a slightly elevated pin worm count but nothing very serious. I jad dropped off a fecal sample a coulpe days before her first visit, that was before the swelling started. He looked at her and told me it was inflammation from the pinworms and would clear up with the antibiotic and a little time. Over the course of several visits he kept insisting the same thing. I called another vet a bit later but it was 5 or 6 weeks out to get her in. She had started bleeding from her vent when she would poop, but I was told that would clear up with the treatment and time also. At this point I was really becoming very agitated.
I started treating her vent with raw honey a few weeks ago. Almost over night the swelling started going down, in 4 or 5 days the bleeding had nearly completely stopped. Ruby was eating better than she had since she laid the last clutch a gew months ago, she was more energetic, brighter, and seemed to like her new habitat better. She was so much more active than she had been in the larger habitat. Everytime she saw us she was at the glass begging to get out. All in all I thought she was well on her way to neing healthy again. (As healthy as a disabled beardie with mbd can be at least). Two night ago at bed time she was perfectly normal. She was digging my chest to make her nest, had birh little front legs thrown back. Then decided to snuggle Zsa Zsa so she started pestering her till she got comfy. Then she decided to get under my chin, so she worked her way there and dug my neck till she made her nest. Just another night of Ruby being Ruby. Yesterday morning at lights on she pooped. Within minutes she started black bearding (slightly, not full on black) but for Ruby even slightly is very off, she never black beards. She seemed very sleepy still. I got her out and she was really low energy. I started calling every vet that would answer. There is a couple emergency animal hospitals here, but i was told that they just wing itcwith reptiles so that's not happening.
One of those gave me the number for another that has reptile vets and will handle emergencies. We took her straight in. At mid day we call an update that she eas doing better, had eaten for them, had perked up and was generally ok. The plan haf been from the stary for them to keep her a few days for monitoring and testing so we were to get updates along the way. In the afternoon we got a 2nd update that all was well, and they thought she was going to be just fine. In the evening they called and said she crashed and we needed to come say goodbye to her. For the life of me I cannot wrap my head around loosingvher like this. It make no sense to me. The vet at Park animal hospital pretty much refused to do blood work, I asked repeatedly, he kept saying they had to sedate her to do it and he wasn't willing to do that. I can't shake the feeling that he let her down. It's been a couple months or more since I took her in originally. I'm so hurt but so much more angry I just can't get my head right. All I know for sure is nothing here is going to be the same without her. Ruby brought so much joy to our home, and now she is gone.
I feel lost, and Christina is a basket case. She is ocd and she greaves harder than people who aren't. I guess anyone that is ocd probably does. It makes the situation here much more traumatic, I'm hurting for her almost as much as for Ruby.
These were taken over the last week or so. The last one was 2 days ago. Right till the very end she was always so happy. The world is a little less good now I think.
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xp29

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Omg, it is so very heartbreaking to read this and I really don't know what to say.
You really have been on an unlucky patch lately and I'm so sorry for you and Christina :(
Man, it seems like I feel your pain and it's horrible but I probably can't even begin to scratch the surface of what you are going through.
Why does life have to be like this sometimes?!
Thank you. 🤗
It is hard, we both miss her so much. Ruby wasn't like other beardies we've had. She was so engaging and friendly and always wanted to be out with us. She was also the happiest beardie. It's going to take us some time to recover from loosing her. Christina and I both truely appreciate the support everyone here has given us. Again thank you 🙂
 

IAmAMirage

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Re-reading this today. I'm not quite sure why. Sometimes I really need to read something sad to remind me that I'm still in touch with reality. Again I am so so sorry for your loss. Please, if you need to talk or anything let me know.
 

xp29

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Re-reading this today. I'm not quite sure why. Sometimes I really need to read something sad to remind me that I'm still in touch with reality. Again I am so so sorry for your loss. Please, if you need to talk or anything let me know.
Thank you 🤗
 

Rocky2022

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Re-reading this today. I'm not quite sure why. Sometimes I really need to read something sad to remind me that I'm still in touch with reality. Again I am so so sorry for your loss. Please, if you need to talk or anything let me know.
Right, and it's something about the love and support in this post.
@xp29 is so strong. I tried to take a break but I peek here often (not sure what I am looking for)- I tried to distract myself by posting other information myself but HERE I AM.
#bdcommunity
 

Cuttlefishh

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I'm so sad to see this. I understand how it feels.. how frustrating it is to pull all stops, see your precious little one improve then take them in for further care .. suddenly something goes wrong and it doesn't make sense. Im sure ontop of the grief the absolute anguish of not knowing what the cause was adds to the intense pain and shock of losing her ... something that Ruby seemingly should have recovered from.. the thought makes me really tearful. It is reminiscent of when my girl Taro also went through something like this almost 5 years ago- she was starting to recover then she took a turn suddenly too. You did everything you absolutely could for Ruby, I really hope you get some answers around what really happened 😔

I'm so sorry for Ruby and what your family are going through. But you've been an inspiration and so strong for others here and that alone speaks absolute volumes as to how massive your love for Ruby is to share that passion for her and your love for beardies in general. Genuinely my thoughts are with you today
 

xp29

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I'm so sad to see this. I understand how it feels.. how frustrating it is to pull all stops, see your precious little one improve then take them in for further care .. suddenly something goes wrong and it doesn't make sense. Im sure ontop of the grief the absolute anguish of not knowing what the cause was adds to the intense pain and shock of losing her ... something that Ruby seemingly should have recovered from.. the thought makes me really tearful. It is reminiscent of when my girl Taro also went through something like this almost 5 years ago- she was starting to recover then she took a turn suddenly too. You did everything you absolutely could for Ruby, I really hope you get some answers around what really happened 😔

I'm so sorry for Ruby and what your family are going through. But you've been an inspiration and so strong for others here and that alone speaks absolute volumes as to how massive your love for Ruby is to share that passion for her and your love for beardies in general. Genuinely my thoughts are with you today
Thank you for the kind words. The out pouring of support here is humbling. It's an unfortunate reality of keeping them we all will face eventually. It helps so much to know others understand and care. 🤗
 

Rocky2022

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Thank you for the kind words. The out pouring of support here is humbling. It's an unfortunate reality of keeping them we all will face eventually. It helps so much to know others understand and care. 🤗
Sad yet true. Again, you're so strong and we appreciate the continued engagement.
My silly behind would disappear or be in denial and type the group inquiring how to wake him. I hope that comment wasn't too soon but you know I'm crazy enough to do that.


OUR Ruby is resting peacefully with limitless crickets and cuddles. Ugh, I'm crying again, ttyl
 

xp29

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Sad yet true. Again, you're so strong and we appreciate the continued engagement.
My silly behind would disappear or be in denial and type the group inquiring how to wake him. I hope that comment wasn't too soon but you know I'm crazy enough to do that.


OUR Ruby is resting peacefully with limitless crickets and cuddles. Ugh, I'm crying again, ttyl
Not to soon, I know you held her in special regard. She would have loved you right back also. Ruby always thrived on human interaction, she loved everyone.

It's so mind blowing to know a little lizard 🦎 in the middle of a desert somewhere could touch so many people, but it's the epitome of who Ruby was. After being graced with three years with her, I'm not really surprised. I'd just shrug and say well that's just Ruby being Ruby. (Now I'm teared up to lol 🤗)
 

BPSabelhaus

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That's what hurting me the most. I tried getting into other vets but every appointment was 5 to 8 weeks out. I was literally begging for help and couldn't get her in. Now the vet that did see her is gone till next week so we have to wait for answers.
It's unfortunate the entire industry is struggling for doctors. 3 years my wife was trying to hire a doctor at her old practice. She finally hired her first doctor at her new practice after almost 2 more years now :( The doctors she has want reduced days so they can pick up extra shifts at the emergency hospital for super high wages right now due to the shortage.

Just cut your nose off to spite your face. That's just regular old cat and dog vets. Exotic vets are even fewer. Not enough doctors to see the patient and they don't have the time. Formerly hour long appointment slots are being made 30 minutes now. The industry is really struggling with retaining talent.

Sorry for Ruby. Wish these little buggers could just say "my tummy hurts" Of course my kiddo is like me and could be on his death bed and be like "I dunno, I'm bored"
 

xp29

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It's unfortunate the entire industry is struggling for doctors. 3 years my wife was trying to hire a doctor at her old practice. She finally hired her first doctor at her new practice after almost 2 more years now :( The doctors she has want reduced days so they can pick up extra shifts at the emergency hospital for super high wages right now due to the shortage.

Just cut your nose off to spite your face. That's just regular old cat and dog vets. Exotic vets are even fewer. Not enough doctors to see the patient and they don't have the time. Formerly hour long appointment slots are being made 30 minutes now. The industry is really struggling with retaining talent.

Sorry for Ruby. Wish these little buggers could just say "my tummy hurts" Of course my kiddo is like me and could be on his death bed and be like "I dunno, I'm bored"
I'm hoping the vet I ended up taking Ruby to turns out to be good. Their bedside manner was the best I've encountered yet so it gives ne a little hope.
 

ChileanTaco

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Taco
Sorry for Ruby. Wish these little buggers could just say "my tummy hurts" Of course my kiddo is like me and could be on his death bed and be like "I dunno, I'm bored"
We often more clearly see what might be going on (no diagnosis of course but I mean that a dragon isn't doing well). But I wish too they could really scream. So that not only we might see that something is off for our specific dragon, but unmistakably everybody including a vet recognizes it. And people who own (I don't want say "caring for") a dragon and are ignorant just can't ignore it anymore. (I mean really those who are ignorant. Not somebody not recognizing slight signs, but people who really don't care, don't want to care, will not look up something online... but finally might be drawn to some help when the screaming gets annoying.)

Btw.: I'm the same with these things like you and your kid - I remember the only time I myself asked for a painkiller... (severe (!) inner ear infection on both sides that I was "ah, nothing" and did everything normally with for a week, until I really asked for that painkiller)
 
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