Rest on peace my sweet Ruby

As you can mo doubt surmise from the title, we had to day goodbye to our precious little girl last night. We are both pretty much in a state of shock right now. So far we have no answers, but the test results from the blood work should be back today. I'm hoping they can provide answers.
We have had Ruby to the vet multiple time lately. She had started having trouble pooping, and her vent had swollen up. We were told she had a slightly elevated pin worm count but nothing very serious. I jad dropped off a fecal sample a coulpe days before her first visit, that was before the swelling started. He looked at her and told me it was inflammation from the pinworms and would clear up with the antibiotic and a little time. Over the course of several visits he kept insisting the same thing. I called another vet a bit later but it was 5 or 6 weeks out to get her in. She had started bleeding from her vent when she would poop, but I was told that would clear up with the treatment and time also. At this point I was really becoming very agitated.
I started treating her vent with raw honey a few weeks ago. Almost over night the swelling started going down, in 4 or 5 days the bleeding had nearly completely stopped. Ruby was eating better than she had since she laid the last clutch a gew months ago, she was more energetic, brighter, and seemed to like her new habitat better. She was so much more active than she had been in the larger habitat. Everytime she saw us she was at the glass begging to get out. All in all I thought she was well on her way to neing healthy again. (As healthy as a disabled beardie with mbd can be at least). Two night ago at bed time she was perfectly normal. She was digging my chest to make her nest, had birh little front legs thrown back. Then decided to snuggle Zsa Zsa so she started pestering her till she got comfy. Then she decided to get under my chin, so she worked her way there and dug my neck till she made her nest. Just another night of Ruby being Ruby. Yesterday morning at lights on she pooped. Within minutes she started black bearding (slightly, not full on black) but for Ruby even slightly is very off, she never black beards. She seemed very sleepy still. I got her out and she was really low energy. I started calling every vet that would answer. There is a couple emergency animal hospitals here, but i was told that they just wing itcwith reptiles so that's not happening.
One of those gave me the number for another that has reptile vets and will handle emergencies. We took her straight in. At mid day we call an update that she eas doing better, had eaten for them, had perked up and was generally ok. The plan haf been from the stary for them to keep her a few days for monitoring and testing so we were to get updates along the way. In the afternoon we got a 2nd update that all was well, and they thought she was going to be just fine. In the evening they called and said she crashed and we needed to come say goodbye to her. For the life of me I cannot wrap my head around loosingvher like this. It make no sense to me. The vet at Park animal hospital pretty much refused to do blood work, I asked repeatedly, he kept saying they had to sedate her to do it and he wasn't willing to do that. I can't shake the feeling that he let her down. It's been a couple months or more since I took her in originally. I'm so hurt but so much more angry I just can't get my head right. All I know for sure is nothing here is going to be the same without her. Ruby brought so much joy to our home, and now she is gone.
I feel lost, and Christina is a basket case. She is ocd and she greaves harder than people who aren't. I guess anyone that is ocd probably does. It makes the situation here much more traumatic, I'm hurting for her almost as much as for Ruby.
These were taken over the last week or so. The last one was 2 days ago. Right till the very end she was always so happy. The world is a little less good now I think.
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Rocky2022

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Rocky, Ruby
I've been crying hysterically...these beardies are so precious. If my Ruby wasn't so bad, I'd remind you thar it was your Ruby that inspired my Ruby's name.

There will never be theeee original Ruby. REST IN PEACE

This is tough
 

xp29

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I've been crying hysterically...these beardies are so precious. If my Ruby wasn't so bad, I'd remind you thar it was your Ruby that inspired my Ruby's name.

There will never be theeee original Ruby. REST IN PEACE

This is tough
Thank you for your kindness, everyone here is so supportive, and it means so much. Other people just don't get it, but everyone here does.
When I was writing this post I was thinking to myself how upset you were going to be also, I actually considered not posting this thread because of it. Hug Rocky and Ruby extra close. Make sure they know how much you love them (I know you do that anyway) I wish you could have spent time with my Ruby to, she would have loved that. 🫂
 

Rocky2022

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I keep coming back like..... it's this real?!

Ughhhhh

I'm sorry, I'll stop commenting because I'm probably not helping. I'm on my couch grieving with you.
 

xp29

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I keep coming back like..... it's this real?!

Ughhhhh

I'm sorry, I'll stop commenting because I'm probably not helping. I'm on my couch grieving with you.
Your perfectly welcome to comment/talk as much as you like 🙂 It does help knowing others care. 🙂
 

IAmAMirage

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Mirage
I don't know what to say. I know I'm fairly new to this community, but even after this short amount of time I feel like you all are my family. I feel like I've just lost someone so close to me. I absolutely understand how Christina feels. I am also ocd and grieve very hard when I loose someone. I know that words can't comfort right now, but all I can say is I'm sorry.

May Ruby rest in peace.
 

NickAVD

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Foxy
Your perfectly welcome to comment/talk as much as you like 🙂 It does help knowing others care. 🙂
Believe me, others definitely care.
I've been living in some other world for two days now. It's hard to find the words, my heart just hurts and my soul is dark. Maybe I'm a little sentimental... But that's how I feel...
And it's still hard to believe it all... 😔
 

xp29

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I don't know what to say. I know I'm fairly new to this community, but even after this short amount of time I feel like you all are my family. I feel like I've just lost someone so close to me. I absolutely understand how Christina feels. I am also ocd and grieve very hard when I loose someone. I know that words can't comfort right now, but all I can say is I'm sorry.

May Ruby rest in peace.
Thank you. I also consider this community my extended family.
Normally I'm not a very social person but here I never shut up 🙂
 

xp29

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Believe me, others definitely care.
I've been living in some other world for two days now. It's hard to find the words, my heart just hurts and my soul is dark. Maybe I'm a little sentimental... But that's how I feel...
And it's still hard to believe it all... 😔
I'm the same way, I become fully invested in every beardie here. The memorials are the hardest to read but I know the poster is hurting so I read them and try to offer support. Believe me I know, understand, and appreciate how much it means to know others care.
I've had to lean on this community more than I could have imagined. You guys are the best!
 

hdochow

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I keep coming back like..... it's this real?!

Ughhhhh
I'm right there with ya! I've started to comment sooo many times and just can't come up with the words.

@xp29 just.... HUGS!!! I'm here for you. I'll come up with words later....
 

xp29

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I'm right there with ya! I've started to comment sooo many times and just can't come up with the words.

@xp29 just.... HUGS!!! I'm here for you. I'll come up with words later....
Thank you.
There has been so much support here. Thank all of you. 🫂
 

Rocky2022

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Rocky, Ruby
Good Morning - today I'm sure isn't any easier but we are still here for you.
Today I wonder how zsa said is doing?

I'm hoping you/your girlfriend are able to manage through each day.
 

xp29

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Good Morning - today I'm sure isn't any easier but we are still here for you.
Today I wonder how zsa said is doing?

I'm hoping you/your girlfriend are able to manage through each day.
Christina still has bouts of crying to be honest having to be supportive of her is giving me something to focus on and helping me not to dwell to much.
We can tell Zsa Zsa is confused, she can see Ruby's habitat and it's covered with a towel till it put it in storage this weekend. She knows Ruby should be there, she has been kind of jumpy when we get her out and a little bit stand offish. She usually is either at all.
We've seen this with them all. Zen nearly grieved himself to death when Chomp passed. Conventional wisdom is that they are solitary and don't interact. I disagree. I think they very much bond with each other on some level. Maybe not like we humans do with each other but in their own way. People that don't keep more than 1 would never see it, so they just assume.
 

Chris.

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Luis and Lilith
Omg, it is so very heartbreaking to read this and I really don't know what to say.
You really have been on an unlucky patch lately and I'm so sorry for you and Christina :(
Man, it seems like I feel your pain and it's horrible but I probably can't even begin to scratch the surface of what you are going through.
Why does life have to be like this sometimes?!
 

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