Trying to convince my parents to let me get a Bearded dragon

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I am trying to convince my mom and my Dad to let me get a bearded dragon. I really want one I have done a lot of research! And a few days ago they were laughing about how I wanted one On the phone! Do you have any ideas how I can convince them?
 

KarrieRee

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Hiccup he is 6 and Blaze is 4
Its good you did research and came here but dragons are unique because they require care that can / and are expensive -- especially first getting into it --- the husbandry can be expensive for some people especially when they get into it find out its not as cheap as they thought -- to me dragons are not a childs pet --- you need to inform your mom and dad they may haft to help you w/ the dragon like financial wise and care -- if you do not give the correct care and I am talking the husbandry and diet of the dragon they will get sick -- that is another thing dragons require food that can get expensive -- your parents need to know what they are getting into -- unless you have a job and can support the dragon then my advice is to wait till your older and more financially able to provide for the dragon - its sad to see someone get into this and find out they cannot afford to take care of it and have the dragon suffer because of it -- here is a topic that one of our members posted for people buying "kits" they are a waste of money so please read it --- most of the stuff in those "kits" is not usable and bad for the dragon
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Karrie
 
What I did to convince my parents was make a list of what I can do to take care of it, and what they need to prove I'm ready. It also helped that my mom saw a baby bearded dragon and thought they were adorable. I also made a list of the costs of everything, a list of things you may only have to buy once (ex. tank, food dishes, lighting etc.) and a list of things you will have to buy over and over again (ex. light bulbs, food etc.). I wouldn't know about any of the "kits" though, my dad made the tank. Hope this helps!
 

ComicBookMama

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Convincing parents can be a job in itself. You've done the correct first steps in doing your research and collecting as much information as you can about bearded dragons. Now, as I tell my students when we're doing persuasive writing, you need to examine your audience and find out what their positions are so you can counter their claims.

If your parents are hesitant to get you a beardie, start by sitting down over dinner or in the evening and talking to them about it. Start by explaining that while yes, you really do want a bearded dragon, that you know that this is a team effort - you don't have the wherewithal to do this on your own. Ask them what their concerns or hesitations are. They will probably come down to these:

1) Money. This is a big one. Reptile setups DO cost money, and plenty of it, to do it right. Things like proper UV bulbs (which you'll want to order online rather than buy in a store - cheaper and better quality) are a recurring expense; things like the tank are a pretty fixed expense until you want to upsize. Offer to do some research here on how much the setup will cost (there's a great article under "Care Sheets and Articles" about what to buy to set yourself up). Then do some price checking on feeders. You won't want to rely on pet store crickets... or probably crickets, period... when there are so many better feeders out there. But if you get a baby beardie, you will be dropping a SIZABLE chunk of change every month on feeder insects.... it can be truly mind-blowing how much these little guys EAT! You cannot let your parents get surprised by that. I'm on a reptile fan group on Facebook, and recently saw a post from a woman who wanted to get rid of her daughter's beardie because it was costing over $100 a month to feed. You need to prepare for that, and be ready to offer to get, say, an adult rescue instead of a baby to mitigate the costs.

2) Bugs. Many parents are not thrilled with the idea that you will need to keep large quantities of bugs in the house, and perhaps be breeding them to save cash. You'll need to find a way around this; beardies need their bugs, especially baby beardies. Some bugs will need to be kept in the fridge to make them last longer. Your parents need to be okay with this - or be willing to offer an alternative.

3) Vet care and upkeep. Dragons should go to the vet at least once a year to be checked for parasites. Locate the closest reptile vet to you, find out what the costs are, and be prepared to share what you will do to help offset those costs. As far as daily maintenance goes... reptiles are generally easier in that regard than cats or dogs; their poos are small and in one cage, and they eat smaller portions of salads than dogs eat kibble. Any responsible kid should be able to handle daily maintenance on their own. But again, you'll need mom and dad to provide you with the supplies... the vinegar and water for cleaning, spray bottles, etc.

Just talk with your folks. Explain that if you have to, you'll wait until you have a job to help offset the costs - but that you'd like to know what it would take from them to make this work. Parents can often remember being young - they will remember wanting something badly, too. They generally aren't going to say no for no good reason... and understanding that reason can give you a way to understand them, and that will make your relationship stronger.

Good luck!
 
How old are you?

My 14 in a couple weeks daughter is currently on a mission to convince me to let her get a chameleon and she’s gonna have to prove she knows which kind would be best for her, husbandry requirements, diet, common illnesses, provide a list of reputable breeders, etc.
 
Chameleons are considered advanced pets because I think they need to be in a humid place or something, which could cause mold. Also my friend (who has a chameleon) says that they typically don't like to be held, and they struggled with taking care of it a little at the beginning, so if it is your daughter's first pet, maybe try something easier like leopard geckos or bearded dragons.
 

loljelloclowdz

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I got Mari when I was 19, but I think my mom was more willing to letting me keep a reptile because I’m able to pay for everything with my saved up birthday and Christmas money. Mari is like a family pet now, though my sister thinks she’s disgusting and has never touched her before because she thinks reptiles are “slimy.” ? Mari is still loved, lol.
 

loljelloclowdz

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reereejugs":az3bf5oy said:
How old are you?

My 14 in a couple weeks daughter is currently on a mission to convince me to let her get a chameleon and she’s gonna have to prove she knows which kind would be best for her, husbandry requirements, diet, common illnesses, provide a list of reputable breeders, etc.

I wouldn’t get a chameleon unless you are a professional reptile keeper with a power generator that kicks on when you lose power. Those dudes are so fragile.
 
Beardedragonlover21":1nh4n0qx said:
Plus it’s hard bc my parents haven’t even seen or met a bearded dragon!

i am looking for a new owner for one of my dragons. the majority of needed viv essentials can be provided, cutting a lot of the initial cost. if you convince your parents and then me, i will give him for free.
 
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